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How the “Prophetic” Tore My Family Apart

How the “Prophetic” Tore My Family Apart

“For the household gods utter nonsense, and the diviners see lies; they tell false dreams and give empty consolation. Therefore the people wander like sheep; they are afflicted for lack of a shepherd” – Zechariah 10:2 (ESV)

At the heart of the charismatic movement is a significant emphasis on the prophetic dimension. Unfortunately, what we witness are deceptive and misleading predictions or claims of future events churned out in God’s Name. False prophecies can have significant consequences, sowing confusion, disappointment, and distrust among those who believe in them. People make life-altering decisions based on these erroneous predictions, only to face the harsh reality that they were misled.

My intention for this week was to delve into an analysis of the realm of the prophetic. However, as I reflected on the subject, I deemed it necessary to first share the profound impact that a false prophetic movement had on my family. Before exploring the Scriptural stand on prophecy next week, it is essential to acknowledge and understand the havoc caused by misleading and deceptive prophecies, dreams, and visions. By doing so, we can approach the topic from a balanced perspective and learn from the experiences that shaped my family’s journey.

I am sharing my story because I am aware that countless others have been victims of the same, enduring profound losses caused by deceitful prophets and misguided prophecies.

The Allure of the Prophetic

The concept of the “prophetic” evokes visions of guidance, wisdom, and divine revelation. However, in some instances, the pursuit of prophecies and belief in their validity can lead to unintended consequences. Unfortunately, my family experienced firsthand the detrimental effects of placing blind faith in prophecies, resulting in the disintegration of family relationships.

In a world rife with uncertainty and complexity, the idea of a prophet offering insights into the future can be alluring. It provides comfort and hope, especially during challenging times when people seek reassurance about their choices and destinies.

I grew up in a family of five: two parents and three boys, with me being the eldest. Throughout their married years, my parents maintained a tense relationship. As time went on, my mother became part of a community of women who identified themselves as “servants” of God, believing they were divinely called to serve Him. I now consider this group to be a cult. Among other things, they claimed to possess prophetic abilities that could reveal hidden truths and navigate one toward a better life.

Erosion of Rationality

Over time, the belief in the prophetic grew stronger within this cult. Practical considerations were disregarded in favour of “divine” visions and voices generated by the group. Rational decision-making was replaced by an unquestioning acceptance of every word uttered by the prophetesses within the group, leading to a dangerous disconnect from reality. I recall a specific incident when we were living in Mombasa. My mother was on the phone with a member of the cult, discussing their plans to pray for the sacking of a nurse at Coast General Hospital. This nurse had apparently obstructed their ministry work at the facility.

Those who dared to oppose this group were automatically labeled as being under the sway of the Devil. My dad, who held reservations about the group, warned my mother about certain practices they engaged in. In response, the group retaliated by concocting visions and dreams portraying my dad as a Devil-worshipper. They accused him of obstructing the destinies of his children for personal gain, claiming he suffered from HIV/AIDS and was draining the life force of our family members (sucking our blood in the spirit realm) to prolong his own life.

Fractured Relationships

As I previously mentioned, my parents’ relationship has always been strained, and my mother’s involvement in the cult further exacerbated the situation. Eventually, a prophecy emerged within the group claiming that God had a grand international ministry destined for my mother. This ministry was to span the entire globe and bring healing to the nations. But this ministry’s realization was being thwarted by my father’s alleged malevolent powers. The proposed solution was for my mother to separate from my dad and pursue this supposed international ministry that God had in store for her.

Second Wife

In response to what she believed was divine “prophetic” guidance, my mother abandoned her marital home, impervious to any attempts made by family members to dissuade her. Consequently, my father sought companionship elsewhere and found a caring partner who stood by him until his passing.

My mother made significant efforts to sever all connections between my dad and his sons. According to her, she received divine revelations revealing that my dad was involved in immoral behaviour. She changed her narrative and now claimed that she left her marriage because dad had always been planning to kill her and bring in a new wife; hence, she had actually fled for her life. Remarkably, she managed to convince my brothers, and they completely severed all interactions with our dad until his last day on Earth.

My mother and brothers also cut off all connections with my uncles and aunts on my father’s side. Further prophetic revelations revealed that these relatives are involved in witchcraft and devil worship. Since I chose not to sever ties with my dad and his family, they included me in Satan worship revelations and subsequently disassociated themselves from me as well.

After my dad’s passing, my mother returned, asserting her claim to all of his assets as his legally wedded wife. She sought to evict my stepmother from my dad’s land in Mombasa, and the case went to court. The Chief Magistrate’s Court in Mombasa ruled in favour of my stepmother, recognizing her as the deceased’s dependent. Senior Resident Magistrate Hon J. Kassam wrote: “It therefore follows that Section 3 (5) of the Law of Succession Act being the parent law supersedes Section 37 of the repealed marriage Act. To that extent, the respondent [my step mum] is insulated under Section 3 (5) of the Law of Succession Act hence recognized as a wife for purposes of succession.”

Eventually, the courts fairly divided my dad’s assets among the five of us, including my stepmother. My stepmother received my dad’s land in Mombasa, which greatly angered my mum and brothers. Presently, my stepmother resides safely on the farm in Mombasa. My mum and brothers continue to keep their distance from us and, despite the court’s decision, persist in their efforts to find legal loopholes to remove my stepmother from the land.

Conclusion

The allure of the prophetic can be captivating, offering hope and direction in uncertain times. However, our family’s tragic experience serves as a cautionary tale, illustrating how misplaced faith in prophecies can wreak havoc on lives and relationships. Our family journey through spiritual ruin, fractured relationships, and loss of opportunities should teach us all the importance of critical thinking and individual responsibility. It is crucial to approach prophecies with critical thinking, discernment, and a healthy dose of skepticism to safeguard ourselves and others from the detrimental effects of false or inaccurate information.

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Lessons from a Flawed Military Commander

Lessons from a Flawed Military Commander

“For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?” – Matthew 16:26 (ESV)

Modern churches, in their sermons, prioritize financial, career, and social accomplishments above developing strong Christian character. This emphasis on success obscures the essential focus on living an exemplary life grounded in faith and virtuous character. This subtle shift in priorities leads Christians to prioritize personal ambition over living a life that aligns with the teachings of Christianity. This trend is increasingly evident across many contemporary churches, making it crucial for us to reflect on the true meaning of faith and ensure we remain true to the principles of the Gospel.

Consider the quotes below from prominent Christian leaders to grasp how far we have deviated from the true focus of the Gospel:

God wants you to prosper in every area of your life. He wants you to have more than enough, so you can be a blessing to others.” – Joel Osteen
Your breakthrough is directly connected to your giving. The more you give, the more you will receive. God wants to bless you abundantly!” – Creflo Dollar
Financial prosperity is a sign of God’s favor. If you’re not wealthy, you need to examine your faith and see what’s blocking your blessings.” – Kenneth Copeland
God has a great plan for your financial success. Trust in Him, sow your seeds of faith, and watch Him multiply your harvest!” – T.D. Jakes
Your faith is the key to unlocking wealth and abundance. Believe, speak positive affirmations, and claim your prosperity!” – Joyce Meyer

Gone are Biblical teachings that touch on humility, compassion, love for others, and the pursuit of righteousness. These teachings are meant to shape us into the image and character of Christ and focus on our relationship with God and the well-being of our fellow human beings. When churches prioritize material success above these fundamental teachings, they distort the true essence of Christianity.

What is character?

Character is the sum of one’s moral and ethical qualities, values, and principles. It is what defines a person’s integrity, honesty, and trustworthiness. Character best reflects one’s spiritual condition. It determines how one relates to others, handles challenges, and makes decisions. Christian character is the result of repentance and belief in Christ that result in consistent righteous habits and choices over time.

Godly Christian character refers to the qualities and virtues that reflect the nature and teachings of Jesus Christ. It is the transformation of an individual’s heart and mind through the power of the Holy Spirit, resulting in a life that aligns with God’s will and brings glory to Him. Developing godly character is a lifelong journey for Christians as they seek to grow in their relationship with God and strive to live in a manner that honours Him.

The story of Joab in the Bible is a cautionary tale that warns against prioritizing material, professional, and social success over character. Joab was a prominent military leader and commander in the kingdom of Israel. His life was intertwined with the reigns of King David and King Solomon, and his actions left an indelible mark on the nation’s history.

The Rise to Power

Joab, a son of Zeruiah, David’s sister, emerged as a central figure during David’s ascent to the throne. He played a pivotal role in David’s military successes, including the conquest of Jerusalem, which became the capital city of Israel. Joab’s military prowess and leadership skills were evident from the early days as he commanded David’s army and orchestrated strategic campaigns against their enemies. He exhibited unwavering loyalty to David which would define his relationship with the king throughout their lives.

Military Achievements

Joab’s military exploits were numerous and noteworthy. He played a crucial role in establishing Israel as a dominant force in the region, securing its borders, and expanding its territories. He led the Israelite army to victory against various enemies, including the Philistines, the Ammonites, and the Edomites. Joab’s cunning tactics, strategic acumen, and fearless nature made him a formidable military commander. Under his leadership, Israel’s military strength and influence grew significantly, solidifying its position as a regional power.

Loyalty and Controversy

While Joab was a success in his military career, he exhibited deep character flaws. Perhaps the most notable incident was his involvement in the death of Abner, a military commander who had defected to David’s side. Joab harbored a deep personal grudge against Abner and saw his allegiance to David as a threat. In a deceitful act, Joab invited Abner to a private meeting and stabbed him to death.

Joab also murdered Amasa, another military commander, who was a nephew of David and had replaced Joab as the commander of David’s forces. When Amasa failed to gather troops promptly for an expedition against the rebel Sheba, Joab saw an opportunity to regain his position and power. In 2 Samuel 20, Joab killed Amasa by stabbing him, reclaiming his role as the commander of David’s army.

Joab also conducted the unauthorized killing of Absalom. During the rebellion of David’s son Absalom, Joab was instructed by David to deal gently with Absalom. However, Joab disregarded these orders and, after Absalom was caught in a tree, personally thrust three javelins into him, causing Absalom’s demise (2 Samuel 18:14–15).

Another controversial event in Joab’s life was his involvement in the death of Uriah the Hittite, the husband of Bathsheba. David had committed adultery with Bathsheba and, to cover up his sin, ordered Uriah to be placed on the front lines of battle, ensuring his death. Joab carried out this order without hesitation despite the morally dubious situation. This incident raised questions about Joab’s integrity and shows his willingness to blindly follow orders.

Downfall and Legacy

Despite his military successes and loyalty, Joab’s life ended in a tragic and complicated manner. Towards the end of David’s reign, tensions arose between Solomon and his older brother, Adonijah, who sought to seize the throne. Joab supported Adonijah’s claim despite God having chosen Solomon to lead Israel (the story is found primarily in the books of 1 Kings and 2 Chronicles). This led to a confrontation with Solomon. Recognizing the threat that Joab posed, Solomon ordered his execution. Joab’s death marked the end of an era, as he was one of the last remaining figures closely associated with David’s reign.

Joab’s story serves as a reminder of the dangers of a deficient character in spite of material and career success. It prompts us to reflect on the importance of Christian character, even in the face of conflicting loyalties. Someone once said that success is not about what you achieve but about the person you become in the process.

Lessons Learned

The pursuit of success without godly character can indeed lead to disastrous consequences. While the world may applaud material achievements or professional accomplishments, the absence of godly character can undermine the very foundations of true success.

Without godly character, success can become hollow and meaningless. The absence of integrity, humility, and compassion leads to moral decay, damaged relationships, and a loss of purpose. True success lies not so much in external accomplishments but in the development of a strong character rooted in godly principles.

Ultimately, true success is not measured solely by external achievements but by the alignment of one’s life with godly principles and character as outlined in Scripture. A holistic and enduring success is built on a foundation of integrity, love, compassion, humility, and a commitment to pursuing righteousness. By seeking godly character alongside our endeavours, we can experience more meaningful and fulfilling success that brings blessings not only to ourselves but also to those around us.

Conclusion

As a loyal military commander, Joab contributed significantly to Israel’s rise as a regional power. However, his sinful actions, motivated by personal vendettas and unquestioning loyalty, cast a shadow over his legacy. Joab’s story serves as a reminder that success must be balanced with integrity and ethical decision-making. By examining Joab’s life, we gain insights into the challenges we face daily and the profound impact our decisions and actions can have on the course of our lives.

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Which Jesus Do You Follow?

Which Jesus do You Follow?

If you’ve been among church people long enough, you will definitely have encountered many who outwardly declare themselves to be followers of Jesus yet live in disobedience to Him.

When he was nineteen years old, back in 1983, David Hampton unsuccessfully attempted to enter a Manhattan nightclub. When he returned later and lied to the security staff that he was Sidney Poitier’s son, they allowed him entry (The real Sidney Poitier was a famous American actor who lived from 1927 to 2022. Sidney Poitier has six daughters and no sons). They led him right to the VIP area. From then on, Hammond developed the habit of appearing at upscale dining establishments for fake meetings with his “father.” He would eat, sign the check under Poitier’s name, and appear upset that his “father” hadn’t shown up. He eventually began going after Manhattan’s affluent residents, including Calvin Klein and Gary Sinise. After introducing himself as David Poitier, Sidney Poitier’s son, Hampton would make up a narrative about being robbed and needing a place to stay until his “father” came for him the following day. “David Poitier” engaged in this fraud up until his death from AIDS in 1993.

A false Jesus

Like Sidney Poitier, the person of Jesus Christ has suffered from impersonators. Truth seekers, like David Hampton’s victims, have fallen victim to a false Jesus preached from pulpits over the centuries. As far back as the first century, the Apostle Paul wrote to the Corinthian Church: “For if someone comes and proclaims another Jesus than the one we proclaimed, or if you receive a different spirit from the one you received, or if you accept a different gospel from the one you accepted, you put up with it readily enough” – 2 Corinthians 11:4 (English Standard Version).

A false Jesus cannot deliver the genuine character transformation that the true Jesus promised His followers. The Apostle Paul, who wrote 2/3 of the New Testament, wrote of this true Jesus in 2 Timothy 2:19: “Nevertheless, God’s solid foundation stands firm, sealed with this inscription: “The Lord knows those who are his,” and “Everyone who confesses the name of the Lord must turn away from wickedness.” The sad state of affairs today is that the majority of those who profess to follow Christ embrace wickedness instead of turning away from it. Hence the question: Which Jesus Do You Follow?

False believers

If you’ve been among church people long enough, you will definitely have encountered many who outwardly declare themselves to be followers of Jesus yet live in disobedience to Him. I once joined a Christian organization and was immediately assigned to field ministry work in remote areas of the country with a pastor. I came to discover that this pastor, who is still a full-time employee of this Christian organization to date, had deserted his wife and kids and was living in an adulterous relationship with another woman. I lodged my concerns with the organization’s director, and I was shocked to find out that she was fully aware of this wrong but, wishing to keep the donor funding flowing, chose to condone the behaviour. I was also a member of a church where I discovered that one of the elders, who was all spiritual within the church compound, had a vicious temper at work. I met a young lady who quit his employment for fear of her safety after an incident where, in a fit of rage, this elder hurled a computer screen at her. Again, when I reported this and other similar incidents to the senior pastor, I was shocked to discover that he was well aware of this elder’s behaviour. Appallingly, he took no action against the elder, seeing that he was a heavy and faithful tither in the church.

The Bible says that “if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature and old things have passed away” (2 Corinthians 5:17). There are a lot of churchgoers who identify themselves as Christians but continue to live in sin without repentance, guilt, or remorse. The church has evolved into a sanctuary for sinners that covers up for their sinful lifestyles and assuages their consciences whenever guilt dares to penetrate their consciousness.

A false gospel

The church achieves this by replacing the authentic gospel of the Kingdom with a heretical prosperity gospel. Jesus’ job description is found in the Gospels: “She will give birth to a son, and you are to give him the name Jesus, because he will save his people from their sins” – Matthew 1:21 (NIV). A Jesus who does not address the problem of sin in an individual’s life cannot be the true Jesus. And this is the Jesus who is preached rampantly across our church pulpits: a Jesus who is more interested in your bank account than in your moral character; a Jesus who is more concerned with your temporal earthly comfort than in your eternal destiny; a Jesus who only generates testimonies of the acquisition of material blessings and promotions and never of moral conversion and repentance from sin.

Friend, you don’t come to Christ for Him to make you wealthy and healthy. You come to Christ because you recognize that you are a sinner deserving of God’s righteous eternal punishment and that Christ is your only way out of God’s holy wrath.

So, which Jesus do you follow?

 

 

This Week’s Reflection

The Tragedy of Demas

For Demas, in love with this present world, has deserted me and gone to Thessalonica” – 2 Timothy 4:10 (ESV)

Demas is a figure mentioned in the New Testament, primarily known for his association with the Apostle Paul. He appears in three key passages: Colossians 4:14, Philemon 1:24, and 2 Timothy 4:10. Each of these verses provides insight into Demas’ relationship with Paul and his role in the early Christian community.

In Colossians 4:14, Demas is mentioned alongside Luke, the beloved physician, as someone who sends greetings to the believers in Colossae. This indicates that Demas was a part of Paul’s close circle, likely assisting him during his missionary work. Similarly, in Philemon 1:24, Paul refers to Demas as a “fellow worker,” a term that denotes someone who actively participated in the spread of the Gospel. These references suggest that Demas was once a trusted and valued companion in Paul’s ministry.

However, the narrative takes a sombre turn in 2 Timothy 4:10, where Paul laments that “Demas, because he loved this world, has deserted me and has gone to Thessalonica” (NIV). This passage reveals that Demas eventually abandoned Paul, choosing the comforts and attractions of the world over the hardships and demands of ministry. His desertion is a distressing example of the struggles and temptations faced by early Christians.

What is Known of Demas Outside the Biblical Narrative?

Outside of the brief mentions in the New Testament, there is little information available about Demas. He does not appear in other historical or extra-biblical sources, which leaves much of his life and motivations open to speculation. The lack of additional details stresses the significance of his actions within the context of Paul’s letters, where even a brief mention carries weight.

Demas’s story is often interpreted as an admonitory tale within Christian tradition, illustrating the dangers of succumbing to worldly desires. The brevity of his mention may also suggest that his departure had a profound impact on Paul, as it is recorded in what is believed to be Paul’s final letter. Yet, the absence of further details also invites reflection on the challenges faced by true believers, particularly the tension between spiritual commitments and worldly temptations.

Demas’ Role in Paul’s Ministry

Demas played a notable role in Paul’s ministry, particularly during a time when the spread of Christianity was fraught with danger and persecution. Being referred to as a “fellow worker” in Philemon 1:24 implies that Demas was actively involved in the work of the early church. This term is often used by Paul to describe those who laboured alongside him in preaching, teaching, and establishing Christian communities.

The fact that Demas is mentioned alongside prominent figures like Luke and Mark suggests that he was considered an important part of Paul’s team. His presence in Paul’s letters indicates that he was not just a peripheral figure but someone who contributed significantly to the mission. It is likely that Demas, like Paul and other early Christians, endured hardships and opposition for the sake of the Gospel. His initial dedication and participation would have been vital in supporting Paul’s efforts to evangelize and strengthen the fledgling Christian communities across the Roman Empire.

The Desertion of Demas

The most striking aspect of Demas’s story is his desertion of Paul, as recorded in 2 Timothy 4:10. Paul’s words, “because he loved this world,” suggest that Demas made a conscious decision to prioritize worldly concerns over his commitment to the Gospel. This phrase has been interpreted in various ways, but it generally implies that Demas was drawn away by the comforts, safety, or pleasures that the world offered—things that were in stark contrast to the dangers and sacrifices associated with following Paul.

The decision to leave Paul and return to Thessalonica might have been motivated by a desire for security, material wealth, or a more stable life, as opposed to the uncertainty and suffering that came with being part of Paul’s ministry. Thessalonica was a prosperous city, which could have provided Demas with the comforts he sought, in contrast to the harsh conditions of missionary work.

Paul’s disappointment is palpable in the text, and it highpoints the deep sense of betrayal and abandonment he must have felt. Demas’s departure would have been a significant blow, not only personally but also to the ministry. It serves as a reminder of the pressures that even the most dedicated believers can face, and how easy it can be to lose sight of spiritual priorities in favour of worldly gains.

Conclusion

The story of Demas, though brief, offers deep lessons on faith, commitment, and the dangers of worldly temptation. From being a trusted companion and fellow worker in Paul’s ministry, Demas’s story takes a tragic turn when he deserts Paul, lured by the attractions of the world. His actions serve as a cautionary tale for believers, illustrating the need for steadfastness and the challenges that come with maintaining one’s faith amidst the temptations of the world. While much about Demas remains unknown, the impact of his choices as recorded in Scripture continues to resonate as a sobering reminder of the cost of discipleship.